I recently received a comment from someone on the blog, stating that I was needy, and that life wasn’t about getting what you want.

At first I was offended.  Defensive, even, in a knee-jerk kind of way.  “Needy” is kind of a trigger word for many women.  It is for me, anyhow.  The last thing I want to do is rock any boats, or take up any more space than absolutely necessary.

Except that’s not exactly true.  And the more I thought about it, the angrier I got.

I do have needs! I work hard to be self-aware and find ways to have those needs met, while still being a good and kind human to the other humans around me. Anyone who says they DON’T have needs is either lying or delusional.

And how sad is it that there are people out there who think life isn’t about getting what you want…Now it isn’t ONLY about me and my wants and needs.  But I’ll be damned if I’m not going to work my hardest to have the best life I can, and to proactively go after the things that I NEED and the things that I WANT.

So there.

::blows raspberry::


5 thoughts on “~Needy~

  1. That sounds like something a MGTOW would say. From what I can tell, they spend a lot of time reading blogs by people they don’t understand and are opposed to so that they can say inflammatory negative things to them. I’m not sure I’d want to value the opinion of a person so set on not enjoying their life either. Good job!

  2. I hope that person who sent that comment will stop judging someone-eles life and live their own. We all have needs and wants the difference is when a person is expecting another person to provide everything from emotional to their physical needs without trying to do it themselves. You go girl.Don’t let anyone steal your joy.

  3. That seems like an insensitive comment; however, said wants and needs are still subject to timing, availability, and conflict with someone else’s needs. It’s just a matter of reality working that way. Also, I can only imagine if a man were to say, ‘I’ll go after the things that I want’ how much public shaming he’d be given for that…

    1. That’s exactly what I was thinking, can you imagine if a man were to say that he will go after the things he wants?! One must come to terms with the fact that life can’t tend to their so-called ‘needs’ and sometimes you just have to help yourself before crying left and right to others.

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