Salou Hack

~Mini-Poly-Vent~

A thing that happens when a relationship ends, is that you have no control over the words that your former person uses when talking about you, and the relationship. It is true that the narratives of a relationship will be different to a degree depending on individual perspective. That’s expected. The problem is when theContinue reading “~Mini-Poly-Vent~”

~Relevant~

I take my children to Pride every year. We go as allies; though none of us wear signs or nametags to identify ourselves as such. The kids know I have dated across the gender spectrum, but I don’t identify anywhere, with any label. That ambiguity may be my own personal confusion, or something else entirely,Continue reading “~Relevant~”

~Unclear~

This week is a cluster. I have to remind myself to keep breathing. Slowly; deeply. I imagine the breath seeping all the way down to my toes, before lazily traveling back up through my body and then out into the universe. Stress is challenging. I like to know things, plan things, control things. The timesContinue reading “~Unclear~”

~Daughter~

My youngest child, and only daughter, is twelve today. She frustrates and confuses me sometimes. She’s brilliant, opinionated, detail oriented, and a blatant perfectionist. She wants things done right. She cries when she is angry. Then I have to remind myself. She frustrates me, because she is like me. And I don’t know exactly howContinue reading “~Daughter~”

~Trend~

When I used the word “polyamory” for the first time with my Dad, I told him, “It’s kind of a trendy thing right now.” He and his girlfriend looked at each other and laughed, and she said, “We definitely aren’t trendy.” Unfortunately it’s become such a watered down term these days, inconsistent in it’s definitionContinue reading “~Trend~”

~The Angry Polyamorist~

I used to have big important things to write. I had issues to explore. I thought I could offer something new to the conversations surrounding hierarchy, metamours, conflict in polyamory, and the culture of poly. I had things to say. Then I got cynical. I got impatient with watching the constant stream of people doingContinue reading “~The Angry Polyamorist~”

~Respite~

noun: respite a short period of rest or relief from something difficult or unpleasant. *(Google Dictionary) I needed rest. Relief. Things were difficult. Things were unpleasant. And suddenly, it’s a year and a half later. I’m still me. I’m still poly. But I am solo, single, solitary. I like to think I’m philosophically polyamorous, but IContinue reading “~Respite~”

~2017~

Boise is having record breaking snow. The kids have had three snow days so far, and honestly, even if school isn’t called off for tomorrow, I will likely keep them home. It’s treacherous out there. I’m anxious about being on the roads. Many of the neighborhoods are snowed in. I was able to get outContinue reading “~2017~”

~A Very Big Announcement~

A NEW POLY CONFERENCE! This is really happening. I am producing a national polyamory focused conference in Boise, Idaho in the Spring. It’s going to be an AMAZING event. There are some fantastic national presenters coming, including Cunning Minx and Lusty Guy from the Poly Weekly podcast. ~Presenter list HERE~ Everyone is welcome!!! Class descriptionsContinue reading “~A Very Big Announcement~”

~Deal Or No Deal~

Benjamin had some sweet qualities. There came a moment where I realized that he reminded me of my ex-husband. My abusive, unstable, volatile, ex-husband. It was nothing obvious, or blatant, just a couple of comments that gave me pause. A few days later, in response to hearing that I had bought myself a new adultContinue reading “~Deal Or No Deal~”