Dating – Page 2 – Poly Nirvana

~Don’t~

Oh, OkCupid. How I loathe thee. (And am also morbidly fascinated by thee. Ugh.) EDITED TO SAY Holy crap these pictures uploaded HUGE! I’m so sorry.

Today on the big bad interwebz, I read a brief rant and subsequent discussion about the term “unicorn hunters” and are there really that many out there, and how it seems like there are more people who complain about the unicorn hunters than there are actual unicorn hunters. Umm, no. Here are my thoughts, inContinue reading “~Hunt~”

~Blunt~

I’m talking with someone on OKCupid, and he invites me to his place of business to meet him. He’s younger than I am, a good conversationalist, and he’s charmingly assertive. I’m feeling mildly interested. “Can I bring a chaperone?” I ask. “What if you’re a serial killer? Or you have a horrible sense of humor?”Continue reading “~Blunt~”

~Reprieve~

I’m taking a forced twenty minute break from working on a new website. I think I may actually gouge my eyeballs out with a fork if I don’t. I’ve been blogging for almost two years now. I use WordPress, it’s been relatively simple and straightforward. I like simiplicity in my visual presentation, and brevity inContinue reading “~Reprieve~”

~Fine~

Disclaimer: This is the real poly that goes on in my imperfect life. It is neither enlightened, nor glamorous, despite what you may think of my awesome poly skills. You have been warned. Alright, poly peeps. Let’s say, you’re having a crabby day. And, in an effort to cheer you up, your partner sends youContinue reading “~Fine~”

~Forward~

I’m really excited about a lot of things. I’m also nervous, because I’ve decided to take some risks which put the possibility of failure on my figurative, full to overflowing, plate . Still, it’s a fantastic feeling to have plans and ideas to look ahead to. I’ve cut one shift every other week at theContinue reading “~Forward~”

~Boundary~

My ex-husband is mentally ill. Not simply mentally ill. He is utterly disabled. It is something that I had to deal with for many years, as he deteriorated, and became more volatile and violent. He was verbally and emotionally abusive to me and the kids, and sometimes physically abusive. When I took the kids and left,Continue reading “~Boundary~”

~Pout~

Sometimes I look around and wonder what on earth I was thinking. Poly is hard, guys. Special Man has a new interest. I suppose at this point he might refer to her as a girlfriend, though I’ve not heard him say it out loud. I know she considers him a boyfriend. And I know I’mContinue reading “~Pout~”

~Time~

I’m in the mountains this week. It’s green and lovely, and I can hear myself think. My main thought last week: Poly is hard, y’all. This week? Relationships are hard. Special Man and I broke up. Nothing is ever all good, or all bad. No person, no relationship. But poly is especially hard. Especially whenContinue reading “~Time~”

~Year~

One year ago today, I posted my first writing on Poly Nirvana, titled “Perfect Poly”. I actually had written it a year before that, out of frustration with the larger poly community and this feeling of not fitting in anywhere; of not being evolved enough to feel true compersion, or mature enough to not everContinue reading “~Year~”