non-monogamy – Page 3

~Not~

Today is not my birthday. But it is the day I gave birth to a small child, fourteen years ago. I called him my angel baby from the beginning. He had such a soft and shiny way about him. Now I look at him and my heart worries. He is still soft and shines bright.Continue reading “~Not~”

~Podcast~

No. I’m not doing a podcast. I did, however, get mentioned on the Poly Weekly podcast over the weekend. I noticed a flurry of hits to one of my writings, and traced it back here: http://polyweekly.com/2014/01/pw-380-advice-secondary/ Oddly, I haven’t been able to listen to it. Special Man Friend listened for me, and said it wasContinue reading “~Podcast~”

~Aftermath~

Christmas afternoon I wandered around surveying the damage, taking a few pictures. The ham dinner was done, the presents unwrapped. Children lounged here and there, and all I wanted was a nap. My youngest had burned her arm on a hot cookie sheet, and I had forgotten to put the candy canes on the treeContinue reading “~Aftermath~”

~Swing~

Over the weekend, Special Man and I were in a Dollar Store picking up party supplies, for a “Day of the Dead” themed event I hosted in my home on Saturday night. I’m not sure how we got on the subject of compersion, of all things, as we walked down the medicine aisle, but heContinue reading “~Swing~”

~Spoken~

I choked. Special Man and I were at dinner with Dad and his long-term girlfriend. And I was emotional and not feeling well; I had all but decided to let things go for another conversation, another day. After all, why did Dad need to know anything about my alternative relationship structure? Who the hell cared?Continue reading “~Spoken~”

~Burn~

Last night, after dinner out with friends, a margarita and a few bites of Special Man’s Cancun Platter, I sat with him on my bed as he went through his laptop and compiled a list of music to make a CD for me to take with me on a quick road trip. He was doingContinue reading “~Burn~”

~Twitch~

Dear Potential Partner (girlfriend, boyfriend, fling, hook-up, or play partner) of Any of My Partners or other Persons Important To Me, Current or Future: When our paths cross, I will shake your hand, and smile and be honestly pleased to meet you. I am sure that there are lots of good things about you, thingsContinue reading “~Twitch~”

~Wednesday~

Tonight is a local poly meet-up in my medium-sized city, and I’m looking forward to some grown-up time with interesting people. At the same time, I’m just a little bit burned out. There’s such a small poly presence in my town, and I’m stuck, not knowing how to reach out to other like-minded people. IfContinue reading “~Wednesday~”

~Peril~

I have a profile on a popular dating site, OKCupid.com. (This is where I first met Special Man Friend, who, by the way, I messaged first, and I never message first…) I get four or five messages a week, and generally the messages are short, poorly written, or just plain ridiculous. “So what I’m seeingContinue reading “~Peril~”

Guest post: Reflections on “perfect poly” by an accidental metamour.

Much love to my Meta, CC, who wrote this, and who should be very proud that she is finding her own way, to her own poly. My husband and I are each two years into our own extramarital relationships, and I still have trouble self-identifying as polyamorous. There are probably people who would place myContinue reading “Guest post: Reflections on “perfect poly” by an accidental metamour.”