This morning I had a small explosion of page views on a post from about six months ago, titled “Five Things Your Metamour Wants You To Know”. I was surprised, but the internet is unpredictable, and I was happy to see it pop up again, as it is the inspiration for one of the sessions I’m presenting at Beyond The Love in two weeks. I’ve been just a little worried about this one, as my personal story with metamour relations has not been a blissful fairytale, but we both keep trying, and I think that speaks volumes.
Poly is hard. I ran across a discussion online that started with an article debating whether or not Polyamory was a choice or rather, an orientation. And seriously, all I could think was “Who cares?” Maybe I’m not academic enough in my poly. All the talk of anthropological analysis, and how our ancient ancestors were wired, and whether or not the animal kingdom embraces patriarchal fidelity or how biological reproductive drives fuel sociological relationship structures… I don’t care. I. just. Don’t. Care.
What I care about is mindfulness. Self-awareness. Making good choices, for me, whether or not there are ancient natural biological urges to be monogamous or non-monogamous. Maybe the intellectual dissection of polyamory is interesting and important, but I am so present-focused on being in my relationship, that I get weary of the constant back and forth.
I received an email today with the subject header, POLYAMOROUS POLITICAL ACTIVISM CONCLAVE FEB 23 2014: BERKLEY, CALIF.
I’ll be skipping that one.