September 2013 – Poly Nirvana

~Returning~

I feel as if I’m in some sort of No Man’s Land. I’m doing much better than even last week as far as pain goes, but my body is tired all of the time, if not utterly exhausted. I’m starting to realize how many things I need to take care of, things that were necessarilyContinue reading “~Returning~”

Ginger Must Die.

My name is not really Ginger. But you knew that. Ginger is a fabulous name. I adopted it when I entered my local poly/kink community. I chose it for my red hair, and because I always thought that Ginger Grant from Gilligan’s Island was the epitome of womanhood. As a girl, I knew I wasContinue reading “Ginger Must Die.”

Guest Post: a simple transparency

Gratitude to the local poet who penned this piece, and granted my request to post it here. I find her words amazingly descriptive and beautifully concise. all that was apparent to her became transparent to you dried up daisy chains of pinches of color whispers of dead leaves and delicate petals to remind meContinue reading “Guest Post: a simple transparency”

Beyond The Love Polyamory Summit 2013

Beyond The Love Polyamory Summit 2013 I will be in Ohio in November to take part in this new national Polyamory conference, and I couldn’t be more excited! There has been a lot of work and effort put into making this a memorable and enjoyable weekend, and I can’t wait! Check it out, come ifContinue reading “Beyond The Love Polyamory Summit 2013”

~Spoken~

I choked. Special Man and I were at dinner with Dad and his long-term girlfriend. And I was emotional and not feeling well; I had all but decided to let things go for another conversation, another day. After all, why did Dad need to know anything about my alternative relationship structure? Who the hell cared?Continue reading “~Spoken~”

~Patriarch~

My dad grew up in an unhappy, sometimes violent, certainly emotionally abusive family. His father essentially abandoned his family when my dad was 16. He left for another woman, with whom he’d had an affair and subsequently married. My dad swore he would never ever do that to his children, or to the mother ofContinue reading “~Patriarch~”

~Sheriff~

So I drove five and a half hours last week, to Bend, Oregon for a date with a man I had never met in person. This is not something I would typically do, but there were a few different reasons I wanted to do this. The Sheriff and I connected through OKCupid. He is smartContinue reading “~Sheriff~”

~Absorb~

Metamour. Is this even a real word? Language evolves to meet the needs of a society or community as it changes over time. When I Google Metamour definition, the first thing that pops up is an entry on Urban Dictionary. Next you will find a plethora of polyamory related web pages, in fact the 11thContinue reading “~Absorb~”

~Pills and Pillows~

I have at least a dozen thoughts moving through my consciousness right now. I am overwhelmed. My body is mending; my emotions are bruised. My head hurts. Everything hurts. Every once in a while, I’ll flash on some image or feeling from the accident and I’ll cry hot tears for about two minutes, and thenContinue reading “~Pills and Pillows~”

~Pause~

A funny thing happened on the way home from my date with the Sheriff. I wrapped my car around a tree, three hours away from home. It was daylight, I was wearing my seatbelt, I wasn’t texting or distracted. I had glanced out the window to see if an upcoming business might be a goodContinue reading “~Pause~”